Here's a picture of my dogs cuddling. They have nothing to do with this post. They're just cute.
A friend once asked my better half if it was tough to live with me sometimes because I’m, like, so “into health.” What if you just want to eat grizzly nachos and drink soda all day one day, the friend asked? Does Laine let you?
First of all, I try never to force anyone to conform to my health habits, such as they are (more on this in a second) because (1) there’s nothing attractive about a pedant, (2) much as I secretly believe otherwise, I’m not the boss of anyone’s life choices, and (3), and perhaps most significantly, being preachy and dictatorial isn’t effective. In fact, it often has the opposite effect.
Of course, I wish everyone on earth shared my worldview on health and eating, on the environment, on what constitutes quality TV programming, etc. But I’m not going to win them over by being preachy. Instead I just try to do what I think is important and what makes me feel happy and healthy, and I try to have no expectations for anyone but me. And if, along the way, someone says, “Wow, that olive and feta quinoa bake didn't taste as bad as I expected!” so much the better.
But this brings me to what I really wanted to talk about: the expectations we have for certain “types” of people, say the health conscious, or athletes, or hard driving executives, or stay at home parents, or artists, or University professors, or teenagers, or you-name-it. The type of expectations some people have about "health nut" me.
Now we’ve all read those sweet little essays about the NFL player who’s passionate about ancient Greek poetry or the top neurosurgeon who listens to Kelly Clarkson everyday on his commute, and we know all about how we should dispense with our preconceived notions and be more open-minded blah blah, so I’m not going to repeat that discussion here.
What I’m going to do instead is go straight to the fun bit, the “dirty secrets revealed!” portion of every “preconceived notion” story. That’s why we read them in the first place, right? To revel in the contradictions. To match them up with our own. To affirm this person’s humanity and subsequently our own. To delight in our shared imperfection. It’s like that time I read that the
Queen of England eats breakfast cereal every morning out of an old Tupperware container. More than just being titillated, I (and the whole of England) was overcome by the sheer humanity of this detail.
I’m not the Queen of England and I won’t even pretend to pretend that anyone would interested in knowing how I eat breakfast cereal (or anything else about me for that matter), but I am, as Desi’s friend suggested “into health” — someone who eats mostly vegetables, fruits, nuts, seeds; who eschews corn syrup and white rice; who’s an environmentally-conscious grow-my-own-food-and-buy-only-second-hand-clothes sort — which adds up to a whole set of expectations worth shattering. Hence:
The Secrets of a Health Magazine Editor Revealed!
Here are some of my less healthy habits:
1. I eat cookies like it’s my job. I can resist ice cream, brownies, cupcakes, etc. But stick a plate of cookies in front of me and I’m like a 4 year old. I will eat them until I’m sick.
2. I love TV. I believe TV is one of life’s purest pleasures and I’ll watch it before I’ll engage in any number of other pursuits. I know full well that I could probably spend my TV-watching time in healthier and more fulfilling ways, but I won’t give it up. They’ll have to pry my TV out of my cold, dead hands.
3. I do not go to the dentist twice a year like I’m supposed to. I usually go once a year. Maybe.
4. How do I love thee, caffeine? Let me count the ways….. The stuff makes me jittery, uncomfortable and agitated, and I know it. I drink it anyway. I love its boldness, it’s electricity, its snap and richness. I love the way it makes me feel even when it makes me feel bad.
5. Point of sale displays in big-box stores were designed specifically for me. I know these things are meant to sucker me in and I know I should be savvier (and, if I do say so myself, I’m fairly responsible with my money). But plop me in the check-out line at Target, get me started perusing the POS display and suddenly I realize that a tube of Carmex, a few packs of triple A batteries and a discount DVD of
Corky Romano are life necessities. How did I ever live without these things? Seriously, I have no idea.
So there you have it. My point with all of this... well, okay, I don't have much of one other that I love these types of stories and so I assume others must too. Though, also, I think part of living well is embracing our humanity, our contradictions, our whole lives. Otherwise we can wind up feeling compartmentalized and ashamed about who we are, and that just ain't right. Sure, we should always be on a path to improvement and healthier living and all of that, but meanwhile, I'm proud to say that I'm a TV-addicted, caffeine-swilling, cookie-devouring impulse shopper. And hooray for that.
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